naughty child - how to fight?
There is nothing worse than even conceive of how you will find yourself among the crowd to scream, the wild child.Yes, there are terrible - colic, teeth, sickness, but it's not as emotionally suppressed us as parents.All our status as an exemplary and wonderful parents take their toll on our child deafening reverberation, echoing to the world so that not to hear - it is impossible.And why?What are we doing wrong, while in the supermarket, making our child arrange a public tantrum and becomes the center of attention?How to behave so as not to become purple with anger at yourself, passers-by and on the supermarket, in which the devil pulled, go?
agreement with the situation
Many parents are trying to behave as if nothing had happened, everything is fine.With wrung a smile we ignore a child's behavior or trying to talk to him sweetly, "Now, Annie, we do not cry, okay?"Take a deep breath and turned her attention to the baby, try to "reach out" to him.
As your child plays a show, you're in it, too, plays a major role, which means you - the center of attention, as he did.Many people know the feeling when nerves to the limit, all in full swing.And you do not even think in such a situation that the child is doing it all for you to attract your attention.Solve the problem peacefully, with a cool head and do not think any of you the opinion of others.
Why hysteria going on?Can the child fatigue and therefore irritability?Or maybe your son is disappointed because he had just realized that he was not going to buy a new set of Lego?Maybe older sister strongly squeezed his brother's hand?You have to become a police officer at the scene, turn on cold reason to get to the root of the problem as quickly and as quietly as possible.Remember, no one method will not work on its own, you should try to understand the reasons for this behavior.
Appeal to issue
Step number one to the issue - an attempt to talk to the child.To a child I heard you, you must include the physical and eye contact - squat to squat or take the child in his arms, so that your eyes were at the same level.Try to understand his emotional state, recognize frustration refute or support.If indeed there is a real problem, express your concerns.
A few more tips:
If a child is uncontrolled, then calmly and quickly take him away somewhere.Changing the environment may be all that is necessary for him to pull himself together.You may have to leave a shopping cart or a package to control, leaving the supermarket to find yourself in the fresh air or enjoy some time in the car.Your child should be a priority at all times.
Remind your child that you love him, but such behavior is unacceptable.The child must understand that the behavior is "within the limits" and what is "outside" of what is permitted.Perhaps the child is not emotionally able to govern themselves, especially if he is tired or emotionally crushed.But this should not justify bad behavior -rules are rules.
Take care of your own emotional equilibrium.If you had to leave the concert hall in the middle of the action because of the bad behavior of the child, of course, you will be disappointed.But the relationship with the child should be a priority, sometimes they even nullify our own desires.It is difficult, but by understanding the science, you will reach a high level of maturity and self-control to put the task of "education" in a way that leaves selfishness.
strength of the inner voice
What you say to yourself, scroll in his mind until the child is naughty in a public place has an incredible force.Pronouncing himself the words will become the basis for your subsequent reaction to the child's behavior.What you say to yourself, will fully comply with the way you respond.If you say to yourself: "I love my son. I want to help him. I'm disappointed, but it's not the end of the world. How can I improve? '- Then you will end up returning a situation in a positive way, rather than to create an emotional rift in the relationship with the child.
Most children, especially at an early age do not behave in public.Parents should always remember that the child in front of them and, therefore, need to perceive the situation and not to be like him, rolling in response to a tantrum.