Problems with classmates

If you notice that a child regularly returns from school depressed, looking for reasons not to go there, avoids talking about schoolmates, crying for no apparent reason and feels lonely - most likely, it is difficult to join the school team peers.

Children rogue: the origins of the problem

Native people fed the baby model of interaction in society.The closed and uncommunicative parents are likely to result in the child's school with the same character, which the team will be a loner and the victim of attack.The opposite, but no less dangerous situation - family overprotection, the conviction of the child in its uniqueness and superiority over their peers.Caught in a school team "zaznaek" quickly return to earth, making them outcasts in the classroom.

provocateur negative peer relationships to the child can become, for whatever reason, taken a dislike to his teacher.For this "teacher" does not necessarily sink to direct enough oskorbleniy- constantly called by the name of a disciple, most often pun

ished and never praise.Neglect of adult children's collective quickly be passed, especially if it comes to the younger students.As a result, child may refuse to learn and go to school.

Typical errors rejected children

Kids attacks on peer to last as long as the "victim" gives reason and stirs interest.Classmates mocked child can entertain it too emotional and not entirely adequate response to the attacks.Rejects the children should be taught to keep their feelings, to manage emotions, to correctly assess the meaning of the words and actions of others.You can cool the ardor of the attackers, issuing reactions that they do not expect - for example, laughing in response to the teaser, or reacting to it with absolute indifference.

second tactical error rogue children is their tremendous attachment to classmates and adults, exhibiting even the slightest respect for them sympathy.Such attachment unscrupulous peers can simply use ("I walk with you after school, and you give me homework to write off"), but really sympathetic child - go into the enemy camp, avoiding excessive obsession seeking support for a "victim".

Help Adults

Parents can help their child build relationships with classmates, but act directly, going to school on a noisy "showdown" with the children and teachers in most cases it is not necessary.The direct intervention of parents is only necessary in a situation where a conflict threatens physical or mental health of the child.

Try to ensure the child communicate with classmates outside of school - arrange children's parties, joint campaigns, invent common affairs.Do not take the kid from the school immediately after school, let him enjoy the playground with the other children - this is an important stage of socialization.Help your child build a friendly relationship with his pretty classmate - the presence of at least one mutual sympathy greatly facilitate the adaptation to the school community.

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